Tom always said if he ever got something serious he would become more educated on the subject than the doctor treating him. He is living up to those words. Immersed deep in the Advanced Google searches, he is finding what he considers wonderful informative web sights about bone marrow transplants and Aplastic Anemia. He tells me he has signed up for news letters on the subject. He tells me these are great web sights full of useful information. Then he tells me don't read the statistics.
I gave up reading about it at all in week two. He can fill me in as needed. I will use the practical now approach. If it pertains to what we are doing this day I will pay attention, otherwise I have to let it go. Too much information is not overload, it is debilitating. It catches me off guard when I am driving. I am thankful I am alone. I give Tom a hug goodbye at the hospital and it becomes a life grip. I shudder and pull myself together to drive home.
Trevor is waiting. He has walked home in the rain from after school study hall. I have him bring out his binder. He shows me many graded pages of math. I take him out to dinner to celebrate. Trevor handing in assignments, and getting them back graded, is a huge accomplishment for that boy. He is truly stepping up, or perhaps its his teachers know we could use some personal direction right now. All I know is he got his work in and graded, its time to celebrate. I tell him if he gets A's I will take him out to dinner for each one. He tells me he sees this as his opportunity to finally compete with his brother with grades. Riley has not been to school in three weeks. Trevor tells me Riley's name has probably been removed from class rosters and roll calls.
Riley will not be back to school this year. I pray he will be able to start high school, but I hear the words from the program directors hinting that they have dealt with similar cases before and they anticipate his not being in school for a very long time. Well, I was frightened by public high school anyway.
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I think you have a great balance of things. You dealing with the now, Tom with the self eduction and the future 'ifs' working on staying a step a head, and Trever is doing what he can do to help by taking responsibility for himself and his actions.
ReplyDeleteEach person having their own job and doing it helps reduce stress on everyone else. None of these are minor. None can be ignored.
I won't tell you to be thankful for the little things for two reasons... 1, I know you are when they are there.... 2, these are not little things.
Your in my thoughts and prays daily.